Recently, a friend apologized for her God-design, claiming because she is analytical and tasked oriented, she isn’t loving enough. I couldn’t help but respond to my friend’s comment.
I’ve observed and have been the recipient of this woman’s quick attention, patience and efficient communication with frustrated folks attempting to navigate bewildering technology, I’ve never detected a tone of irritation or dismissal in her voice as she’s walked someone through what must seem to her like a perfectly logical process.
I sent my friend an email to let her know I believe she exhibits love in practical and outstanding ways, and her unique God-design is a blessing that’s needed! I appreciated and related to her response. I suspect many reading her words will agree. She wrote, “I have spent the majority of my life feeling like I need to apologize for my God-design.”
Where do thoughts like my friend expressed come from?
I never like to give much credit to the enemy of our souls, but I suspect that much of our discontent with who God created us to be is the result of lies spoken by our spiritual enemy. Lies may have been implanted directly into our hearts or perhaps were spoken from the hearts of those whose lives intersect and influence ours. In John 8:44, Jesus said of the devil, “…there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.”
The only way I know to counteract a lie is to replace it with truth. Scripture is filled with truths assuring us God’s design for our lives is good, and therefore, we need never apologize for it.
Recently, I dissected a portion of a Scripture found in Romans 2:4, which in part says, “…God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance.” Since the New Testament was translated from Greek, sometimes a meaning can be misunderstood in the translation. Not so with the word kindness in this verse. Kindness is exactly what we would suspect.
The meaning of the word repentance, however, may surprise you. Translated from the Greek word metanoia, the definition reads,
“the state of changing any or all of the elements composing one’s life: attitude, thoughts and behaviors concerning the demands of God for right living; note that this state can refer to the foundational salvation event in Christ, or to on-going repentance in the Christian life.”
I’d like to ask three questions:
- In what ways have we been apologizing for our God-design rather than learning to accept and understand how God distinctively designed us?
- How might God’s kindness lead us to a different way of thinking about our special design?
- What tools, books, groups or person could help replace old lies with new truths?
Blessings to each of us as we learn, grow and lean into our unique God-design…
- Zondervan NIV Exhaustive Concordance, Second Edition ↑