Probing, “Does this really matter?”
My husband and I were on the brink of an argument the other day. He’d heard a request I’d made one way, and I was convinced I’d communicated it another way—which, naturally, in my opinion, was the RIGHT way! (You can imagine a smiley-face emoji inserted here!)
Just as I was preparing my defense against Ron’s perception, I heard it—the voice of grace, asking, “Really, Sue, in light of eternity, does it matter?” I knew the correct answer. No, of course it doesn’t! I’m grateful I listened and was able to capture and set aside argumentative words that day. Otherwise, resentful feelings that could have easily become harsh, hurtful and long-lasting may have been the outcome. I know that from experience!
I’m not sure when I started listening to the voice of grace ask me the ‘in-light-of-eternity’ question, or more importantly, when I realized that in light of eternity, most potential gripes and grievances truly do not matter.
I’m one of those people who has a passionate opinion about almost everything! I possess a very strong sense of fairness and justice. And, on top of that, somewhere during childhood, I determined it was vitally important to be RIGHT.
Here’s what grace has taught me.
It’s all right to be passionate and have opinions, but wisdom will help me manage my
passions and opinions, choosing with whom and when I share them.
Fairness and justice are important, but I can decide which battles are worth fighting,
and if I feel the need to fight a battle, I can prayerfully decide on a strategic plan for
Finally, grace has taught me I don’t NEED to be RIGHT!
Grace not only challenges me to consider what doesn’t matter in light of eternity. Grace also reminds me that much does matter:
a kind gesture; a helping hand; an encouraging word; generosity;
forgiveness; gratitude; willingness to listen; temperate correction;
gentle truth; inconvenient or undeserved acts of kindness;
persistence; non-malicious laughter; validation;
and always, always unselfish love.
I want to learn to listen more carefully, obey more readily and turn my behavior around more quickly when the voice of Grace asks, “In light of eternity does this really matter?”
How about you?
Grace to you…