Discovering ‘Joy-Robbing’ Behaviors & ‘Joy-Building’ Solutions

By Sue Reeve

     In the past two blog posts, we’ve been talking about experiencing joy in ‘crazy’ seasons. Last time I discussed how I’ve learned the benefit of incorporating stress management techniques and Scripture to help me navigate ‘crazy’ seasons more successfully.

     Today, I want to explore some of the roots of ‘joy-robbing’ behaviors. Oftentimes, we act in ways we don’t like and realize aren’t helpful, but we still do them. Discovering the origins of those behaviors does not mean we have an excuse for unhelpful behaviors, but often creates some “ah-ha” moments to serve as a springboard for finding healing so we can begin to make change.


  • What ‘crazy-making’ situations or people rob your joy? (Check all that apply)

               ( ) Finances

               ( ) World Events/Politics/Workplace Dynamics

               ( ) Weather/Traffic

               ( ) Health Concerns/Personal Appearance/Aging Process

               ( ) Husband/Kids

               ( ) Parents/Siblings/ In-laws/Other Extended Family Members/Close Friends

               ( ) Neighbors/Co-Workers/Service Providers/Other Acquaintances

               ( ) Other _____________________________________________________

               ( ) Other _____________________________________________________

  • Where do your ‘crazy’ anxious thoughts or joy-robbing behaviors come from?

               Note: Family of Origin is usually a good place to begin this type of exploration.

  • What steps could help you regain more joy in your journey?
  • What one step will you take this week to journey out of ‘crazy’ and into joy?

Joy-building Scriptures for a Joy-growing Journey:

Jesus said: 9 “I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love. 10 When you obey my commandments, you remain in my love, just as I obey my Father’s commandments and remain in his love. 11 I have told you these things so that you will be filled with my joy. Yes, your joy will overflow! John 15:9-11 (NLT)


10 … This is a sacred day before our Lord. Don’t be dejected and sad, for the joy of the Lord is your strength!” Nehemiah 8:10 (NLT)


Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again—rejoice! Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do. Remember, the Lord is coming soon.[a]

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Philippians 4:4-8New Living Translation (NLT)

The secret to experiencing a journey of TRUE JOY:

  • 37 Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.” Matthew 22:35-40 (NLT)
  • I am confident that the Creator, who has begun such a great work among you, will not stop in mid-design but will keep perfecting you until the day Jesus the Anointed, our Liberating King, returns to redeem the world.. Philippians 1:6 (VOICE)
  • 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control… Galatians 5:22 & 23 (NIV)

All Scripture references are taken from

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These two precious ‘munchkins,’ Reeve and Emmi, bring their Grandma Susie joy beyond description!

Sue Reeve

1 thought on “Discovering ‘Joy-Robbing’ Behaviors & ‘Joy-Building’ Solutions

  1. Your grandkids are absolutely beautiful…..God Bless! Also, your blog is so helpful and gets me back “on track”. Lately, I’m surrounded by so much stress and negativity, but I do place everything in God’s hands and pray in the morning for a good day, and thank him at night for experiencing a good day.

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